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Dear Ex,  LETTER OF APOLOGY An apology letter for all the pain I've caused you, and for not being the kind of man you wanted me to be. I do hope you are breathing fine and I hope you're enjoying your life better without me. I apologize for not being the kind of guy you needed me to be,  I'm sorry my income could not match up with your expensive class and style,  I'm sorry I'm not as extravagant and flashy as your friends' boyfriends,  I'm sorry I cannot afford to give you 20K to fix your hair every two weeks,  I'm sorry my career growth isn't at the pace you expect,  I'm sorry I have to complain many times that I don't have money, I'm sorry that I prioritize investing in my future above the daily pleasures and gratifications,  I'm sorry your friends think I am low class and not good enough for you,  I'm sorry that I cannot do what your friends' boyfriends are doing to spend money on them the way they do,  I'm sorry I do no...

HOW TO PREPARE FOR AN INTERVIEW. An interview is your best chance to show the recruiter that you are the best candidate for the job, and whether or not you get the job depends largely on how you perform during the interview, so it is imperative to make a great first impression on your hiring manager. Also, note that it is not just what you do, it is also about what you say, and how you say it. Here are a few tips… 1. Understand the role you are applying for. Review the job description. It is essential to understand the duties you will be performing and the skills required to do the job effectively. 2. Research about the company (know their aims and objectives, check their social media and website). Researching the company before an interview will give you an insight into the organization’s future goals and plans. 3. Tailor your CV to suit the job you are applying for. List the experiences and core soft and hard skills that are most relevant to the job on your CV 4. Write a professiona...

Anger seems to be a remote and relative emotion. It's very common in humans, more in some and less in others, depending on personality. But undoubtedly, almost everyone will experience the overwhelming loom of anger when bullied, treated unfairly, or cheated on. But then, as unique as we humans are, many of us have ways in which we amazingly handle and logicalize our anger in our angry moments. Anyway, let's get to the point of this article. On one major observation, I have found that a lot of people believe that anger is a bad emotion and the typical cause of violence, misunderstanding, and misjudgement. How I knew? Of course, it's evidenced by the quickness at which people weave out these sort of statement in some given situation: "You don't need to be angry", "That's a trivia issue just bottle it up", "Ohh, you're so short-tempered" and so on. All these are cues verifying that a lot of people see anger as BAD.  But let's sinc...

“ When defeat comes, accept it as a signal that your plans are not sound, rebuild those plans, and set sail once more toward your coveted goal."  Napoleon Hill, author of "Outwitting The Devil," is a famous philosopher and an eminent entity in the domain of self-help gurus. He's also the author of "Think and Grow Rich," marked as one of the international bestseller of all time.  In his book — Outwitting the devil — Hill explains how a visionary purpose of creating and publishing a certain project, at a peak in his career, eventually and unfortunately began to fall out of motivation, focus, and grace. Due to heaviness of pressure and sheer despondency, he lost hope and belief which almost confounded him to a state of constant alienation. But fortunately for him, everything changed and took a good turnout the moment he found his "o ther self ." A major crisis that led to the murder of Donald Mellett, a journalist, friend, and potential business part...

THE DAY THE DEVIL DRANK WATER I've been hearing that the Devil drinks water but I never knew how real it was until I saw him drink cold water with my korokoro eyes. It wasn't funny. 😊 I visited my fiancé’s parents for the first time last week. I was really nervous, I wanted to do everything right so, I started writing down my ideas some days before. The gift to buy for them, the cloth to wear, what I'm going to say, etc. I was doing rehearsal like I was going for a seminar presentation.  I got to the house and her mum had already prepared egusi soup with pounded yam. Wow! The whole house was booming with the aroma of a lot of orishirishi that is in the kitchen. I felt like I was in for a really good time. I remember how my fiance had told me several times that her mum is excellent when it comes to hospitality.  Meanwhile, before I left the house I had consumed some hot beans and potato. It tasted so well I had to help myself with another plate to appreciate myself fo...

  WE ARE ALL A BUNCH OF PRETENDERS Dear reader, would you classify yourself as someone who is always real or as a faker? What I mean is, do you try to be “this person” to this person and “that person” to another or your lifestyle is consistent? Will Mr. A, B, C, D, and E describe you as an outgoing person, a giver and one who likes to help others or they will come up with a different description of you? It’s up to you to answer the question honestly. The concern is: Why don’t we ever try to be real? Like, say things the way they are, show ourselves the way we are, and let the world see us for who we really are. Why do we give a shit about people so much that we deprive ourselves of the opportunity to be real? You try not to air your opinions because people may say your view is different, you decide not to buttress a point because they may say “you talk too much. You don’t want to wear this dress because people may think this and that…”  How many times do we fake a sm...