BEAT YOUR WALLS. 9 WALLS YOU NEED TO BEAT DOWN TO LIVE A FULFILLED LIFE.

To 'beat your wall' means to face your giant. In this context, a wall means ANYTHING that is holding you down and restricting you from being that wonderful, intelligent, talented and loving person you were created to be. Anything stopping you from being the best version of yourself. 

 A wall could be anything; it could be your Past (mistakes or failures), people's negative perception of who you are, your environment, inferiority complex, judgemental and negative individuals surrounding you, financial constraints, a heartbreak, death of a loved one or an habit etc. 

The above points are walls which can confine a person into oblivion and make one scared of themself and the world out there. This type of wall provides a negative protection; nothing comes in and nothing goes out. It casts dark shadows and stops light of any form, making the individual blind and all the more scared. 

But guess what?

There's more to life than living like a prisoner. There is so much more in you that the world is waiting to see and receive. Don't be trapped in such a condition that you can't erase but can definitely change! You have all it takes to beat those walls and come out a better, bigger and stronger person. 

The following are 9 walls you need to beat down in order to live a balanced and fulfilled life. 

1. Your Past. 

Hmm! If only the video of everyone's past can be played, what embarrassing and even shameful scenes will there be. What I mean is that every individual has a past, with events that they are not proud of. We all have at one time or another failed and have shortcomings which May be ugly, shameful or even embarrassing. 

 So, do not let your past hold you down,  now that you know everyone has a past. When people overlook their own shortcomings and choose to feast on yours, always remember that they were also guilty at some points in their lives. Bury your past and focus on the present and the future, for yesterday will never come back but the future is assured. 

 2. People's negative perception of who you are. 

Our world today is full of evil and atrocities, bad things happening everywhere and people's guard is always on check. Trust is now rare. A person's innocent and honourable intentions are misunderstood, mistaken and in some cases abused. But I want you to take note of this: Be real. Be yourself. Be positive . Always have the right intentions for time is a revealer of all things. Those that judged you initially will get to know you mean no harm and will warm toward you and accept you for who you are. 

3. Your environment. 

It is indeed true that environment plays a crucial role in an individual's make up. But when you realize there are some defects in you as a result of the environment you were brought up in, you can always adjust and adapt since you are now responsible for your actions. Don't let your poor environment limit you . Ben Carson, the World best Neuro surgeon grew up in a ghetto. Joyce Meyer, America's #1 best seller author grew up in a slum with an abusive father. 

 4. Inferiority Complex. 

At some points in our lives, having met some wonderful, intelligent, beautiful and handsome individuals, we tend to look into ourselves and create a mental scale of comparison between ourselves and the people around us. Slowly, one develops depression and low self esteem.  Such a person then choose to be in the shadows when they can actually be on the stage.

Instead of focusing on your flaws and grey areas, learn to look at the positive qualities God has instilled in you. Earn your confidence from within yourself, trust me its one of the best feelings ever. Hold your head up and tell yourself that you are also great in your own unique special way.

5. Judgemental and negative individuals surrounding you. 

Living alone is better than living with negative individuals. Such people can kill one's dream and cripple one's efforts for all they see are impossibilities. The  painful part is, these dream shatters  never make attempt or plan to change their lives so they drag you along with them.

When you notice that people's influence around you isn't a positive one, whoever they are, learn to detach yourself. Surround yourself with like-minded persons who can help push you up and make you better than you are 

 6. Financial Constraints. 

Indeed money is the power we need to solve daily needs and for the success of our dreams. But then, here we are in difficult times with a deteriorating economy and for most, survival is the daily concern.

But in all these, learn to be thankful for what you have. Live one day at a time. Adjust. Hope that the sun shines your way again and you'll have a chance to fulfill all your desires. But until then, live. Breathe. Work. After all, things don't always go as planned, so take this moment as one of such and pray for better days ahead 

 7. Heartbreak. 

Hmm! A touchy subject. Someone once said "for something to be strong, it has to be broken and moulded again". Having Someone who means so much to you walk away from your life can be very painful. You try to reach out and make amends, but it just doesn't work. Then you start asking questions, "was I not good enough? Where did I go wrong?" etc. Then you go into isolation and even depression. 

But Hey! What was meant for you wouldn't have left. They don't belong in your life so their leaving was timely. Gather yourself and start over again. Open your heart to love again. The one for you will find you when the time is right and everything will fall in place. 

 8. Death of a loved one. 

While we live, a time will come that we would lose a loved one for death is inevitable. It is no doubt a heart breaking experience and can be a wall around us if we continue to focus on the emptiness and void created by their death.

So, accept the fact and learn to live with the reality. Heal yourself. Make deliberate efforts to be happy. Meditate. Live life again.

9. A habit. 

A habit can also be a wall and its a hard thing to just merely shrug off as it is already registered in our subconscious. But think what chances and great opportunities you could deprive yourself because of a clumsy habit. You know what you want and where you want to be, so a habit shouldn't stop you. Self-discipline yourself. Work on that habit(s) and you will eventually get rid of it.

It is never God's intention for us to be little. We shouldn't let anything keep us down. Most times, these walls or challenges are what make our lives' journey and stories worthwhile and in them we can find turning points, but only if we stand up to beat them.

Discover yourself! 

Beat your walls!! 

Be your best!!!

AUTHOR: Alheri Ayuba